Faced with AGGRESSION? Mentally strong people take a moment to calm and centre themselves when faced with aggression from others.
If you did not choose this situation why would you respond to it in kind? Why seek to match the aggression if it is in truth not what you want?
If you want nothing to do with this aggressive behaviour then act like you don't. Behave true to yourself. Rather than letting the other person's mood and emotional imbalance dictate how you behave, you get to choose. This is not you being passive aggressive nor you being bullied. This is you keeping your calm in a genuine way.
Many times we do react first and think later. We often upset ourselves by getting involved in another persons bad behaviour without first considering if we even want to become involved. It is easy to 'find yourself' suddenly in a negative interaction not of your own making.
If this is a bullying situation then by reacting you are giving away your power base. Through staying balanced and not being reactive you are keeping the upper hand. This isn't a battle of wills. This is you choosing to maintain your peaceful stance. Not giving in to their attempt to control how you react. You remain in control. Remember that bullies test and will poke to see what reaction they get.
Some people are 'drama' driven and frame the world in that way. They will expect you to react and want you to. It is not for other's moods and view of the world to dictate yours. You have control on this and you can implement it best by taking a moment and reflecting on what is happening. Rather than reacting first and thinking later.
You may well be in a toxic environment with unhappy aggressive people. This does happen and you may be in a position to have to make a decision as to what to do about it. However, make the decision in a calm balanced way.
Reflect on it as an environment issue. This behaviour is not everyone, not you and not all situations. If it is your environment such as workplace then you get to make decisions on how to handle that.
Be careful about taking it personally as a reflection of your worth. Be careful about generalising and thinking all work places are like this. Same with thinking all people, all men, all bosses, all relationships, all churches..whatever. To generalise in this way is a cognitive distortion and be mindful if your thinking is taking you in this way, realising it is not a healthy true perspective.
Mentally strong people will differentiate and see the aggression they are experiencing as belonging to a person or situation or environment. You can do this too.
If you have a personal issue with aggressive situations or passive aggressive people who are upsetting to cope with and would like someone to talk to I will be happy to help.
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