Just because you think it doesnt make it TRUE
All of this happens and we typically are not even aware of it. This is why self-awareness is so helpful.
What do emotions boil down to? Basically, its Love and Fear.
To realise why you are feeling or thinking like you are and to isolate the emotions behind it is life changing.
You can do a lot of this through your own efforts. A professional such as myself as a Psychologist could possibly get you there faster.
However, I can assure you that you can progress a lot by even beginning to choose to become self-aware of your internal dialogue.